The Miss Info Report
Different strokes for different folks, right?
Today my homegirl and co-worker, Hot 97 host Angie Martinez spoke to Akon about relationships. Akon, who recently released a single with Eminem, explained that as an African (Ak' is from a very prominent music family in Senegal) he believes in polygamy.
Today my homegirl and co-worker, Hot 97 host Angie Martinez spoke to Akon about relationships. Akon, who recently released a single with Eminem, explained that as an African (Ak' is from a very prominent music family in Senegal) he believes in polygamy.
His father had four wives, all of whom he considers "Mom". It also turns out that Akon has taken up a Senegalese lifestyle here, because after a little hesitation, the singer-producer admitted that he has his own multi-monogamous household going down in the ATL!
Comments (83)
hey i luv u da best
Posted on July 12, 2007 10:50 AMi really luv ya
hey akon u r so cutie n handsome.
u r da best
byeeeeeee
lvu ya al!
Posted on July 2, 2007 2:49 PMi love Akon 2 death, i would marry him in a second...so what if i'm the 4th or 5th wife :)
Posted on July 2, 2007 1:08 AMi love you akon, ur music is great. ur ma best singer. ur nang..xx
Posted on June 29, 2007 9:34 PMVH1 is socially-irresponsible to put this on, not because of Akon, but the idea of polygamy in America on YOUTH is going to have serious ramifications. Someone needs to tell VH1 that there is something called AIDS. Can they even imagine Black youth going around with 3 or 4 girlfriends. This is sending the signal to YOUTH that it is somehow OK to live this way, couple it with problems that exist in our culture today and you have a toxic soup.
With outright garbage like this our struggle is put back several hundred years now. Instead of showing LOVE between TWO PEOPLE, they're showing YOUTH that it's somehow OK to love several women at a time. AIDS is very real y'all. With VH1 presenting this type of stuff, they may as well start injecting kids with hyperdermic needles. We don't need a conspiracy theory when it is RIGHT IN OUR FACE. A shame on American society that television shows are now PROMOTING AIDS INFECTIONS AMONG BLACK PEOPLE.
Posted on June 26, 2007 10:21 AMI love you AKON SOOOOo much ur just the best
Posted on June 7, 2007 2:45 PMI Love you akon you are my favorite singer and I LOVE YOU! I love all of your songs and my favorite song is "dont Matter". The rest of your songs are awsome to but that is my favorite one. Hopefully im writing to the real akon and if i am i think i will faint. Please write me back as soon as you can. To tell you the truth all of that information is wrong but I just want to write with you. SORRY. And once again you are my favorite singer and I love u!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.
Posted on June 3, 2007 6:18 PMKeep you songs going and hopefully you will make really good decicions in your life to keep all of that great singing going on. Dont get into any gangs because you will die and it is an easier way to die also with smoking. I LOVE U! I LOVE U! I LOVE U!!!!!!
i want to marry AKON
Posted on June 1, 2007 9:01 AMi love AKON
I woundering if it´s okay to use the picture of akon in my fotoalbum on my hompage.
Posted on May 22, 2007 4:20 PMI know akons wife infact I went to school with her and she is a very intelligent person. Believe me if this was not the life style she wanted she would be back in SC. She was with him before all of his fame in the US, even went to africa with him. I know for a fact that she is the head lady and all the others are just seconds regardless to what he saids about all of them being treated equally.He has all of his 3 sons from her noone else. Keep running it T and hold the ville down.
Posted on May 17, 2007 2:36 AMjk jk jk u r cool luvued ur concert go akon.
Posted on May 11, 2007 11:48 AMu suck balls
Posted on May 11, 2007 11:45 AMI do not wish i was akons wife cuz he is a player and he is very ugly but i love the way he sings.
Posted on May 11, 2007 11:42 AMhi smack that and i wanna love you are the best songs me and my friend all the time after school lisen too them lvu Leiana lol
Posted on May 8, 2007 10:48 PMEYY PEOPLE IM MUHAMMED, MY MATES CALL ME MOE AND AS U SEE FROM MY NAME IM A MUSLIM(PROUD 4 LIFE) AND BELEIVE IT OR NOT IM NOT A TERRORIST......REALLY IV FUKKEN HAD IT ENOUGHT WITH THE STAMP TERRORIST ON US AND I WANNA TALK TO PEOPLE THAT AGREE OR DIAGREE WITH THIS COMMENT.
Posted on May 5, 2007 6:52 AMMY MSN IS moe_turko@hotmail.com
well i really like akon alot i want to meet him in a person i would be really happy akon i love u
Posted on May 3, 2007 12:30 PMI wish i was one of akon's wife
Posted on April 15, 2007 4:25 AMHello, all, antoher issue for me is that he's equating "having multiple girlfriends" with the practice of polygamy, and it's not even the same thing. Yes, you are dealing with multiple women, but with "girlfriends" generally, you don't have any financial obligations to them, whereas with "wives", you're obligated to provide for them. Also, in the Miss Info report, Akon says thta he can "have as many wives as he can afford". I don't know what kind of Islam he learned and here he learned it, but the limit is four, says very clearly in the Qur'an that it is four. So I'd sure like to know who told him it could be "as many as he could afford", but maybe he forgot his Islam along the way, God alone knows best.
Another issue that's bothering me is on Wikipedia there's a huge discussion going on as to what Akon's "real" name is. On the Akon article, there's this long name, and there are Wolof speakers who are arguing that some of that name can't be his "real" name, becuase some of the "name", means "I wanna f*ck you", in Wolof, and they were pretty adamant that no way would his parents give him that name. But you also have others saying, "no, he's said in interviews that this is his real name". Now, assuming that it is not, and it's the "nasty expression" that some claim that it is, why on earth would he come over here and tell people that it is his real name, knowing full well that we'd never know the difference? Pretty deceptive to me! And I'm not exactly sure whether they guy has multiple wives, girlfriends, concubines, mistresses, or what have you, and we can't say that the whole show wasn't entirely scripted, as he mentioned that him and Angie Martinez tried to think of things to ge tthe covnersation going. So the whole thing was meant to be controversial. So first he's got wifey(s), now the latest is that he doesn't, and he's according to some, going around telling people that part of his name is a derogatory Wolof expression. I know Wolof speakers and I'm ashamed to even ask them if the expression "damala bouga time", means what some say it means, because they may be too embarrassed to answer me. And also, not all Afircans, or Muslims for that matter practice polygamy, not sure why he even said that. So he's generalizing Africans, Muslims, etc., and I don't like generalizations. It's all starting to seem like a publicity stunt, and just something to stir up gossip, and I can only imagine the trouble it coudl be causing him and his family. But anyway, anything to sell those records I guess. Subhanallah, not much more I could really say on this I guess.
Posted on April 1, 2007 12:14 AMHi, my name is Dienabou and i'm also from Senegal. Akon is amazing love his music, but i'm so disappointed with him for marrying three women a mean how low can he be. He is just making my country look bad by telling the american media.
Posted on March 31, 2007 1:19 PMGreetings all, as a Muslim, and a woman, too, I don't disagree with polygamy, in and of itself, and I don't disagree with Akon's decision (or not, depending on how you're reading his comments), however, here is what I have a problem with. How can you talk about polygamy being "your religion and culture", and talk about Islam, etc., yet your music or at least some of it, doesn't even reflect Muslim values? I mean, try playing "Smack Dat" or "I wanna F*ck You", after Jumua on Friday, and see what the imam says? It's like he wants to be all "muslim" and "Senegalese", when it suits him, but is it "Senealese culture" to talk about "smackin' dat", and calling women hoes, etc.? And sayin, "I wanna fuck you?" Oh come on now. He just wants to have his cake and eat it too and use it as an excuse. I know of so many Muslim men who do this! alk about "being a Msulim" when they want their four wives, yet forget all about Islam, when it comes to prayer, fasting, and general good character! Foul language, and talking about watching women gridning on those poles is not "Islamic". You ain't even supposed to be looking at women you ain't married to anyway! Youssou Ndour got more than one wife, but he ain't singing about "f*ckin" anyone or "you grinding on that pole", etc., as far as I know. So what's up with that? Perhaps Akon just said what he said to stir people up, but a lot of stuff has hit the an over it, and as a Muslim woman, who's heard his latest album, I'm appalled! It's one thing to sing the kind of stuff he does, but then to talk about "Islam" when he wants all of wome and use Islam to jsutify it? Oh whatever! As far as him "upholding the Ummah", eyah right! Whoever said that didn't listen to some of those songs on his CD. But anyway. The phrases, in I can't remember if it's the Qur'an or the hadith, which says that when news comes to you of an affair, one should investigat it, to dicover the veracity of what you're hearing, before you go spreading it around, so I hesitated on commenting, however when it's the very person starting the "rumor" that the "nes" is about, well, what do you do? Guess I'll stop for now.
Posted on March 27, 2007 10:26 PMHi im akoon and im from sudan, actually not all africans believe in marrying more than one women
so i am glad akon was able to let everyone know this as people will turn and look at africans the wrong way
Posted on March 14, 2007 9:11 PMcheck Akon's interview:
http://www.bet.com/Music/akon_konvictedtolove.htm?Page=2
Now it's time to clear up something. Did your father have more than one wife?
No. Let me explain it. This is the problem with Black America, they take something and remix it. This is my personal experiences. They're going around saying Africans [have more than one wife based off of] something I said [on a radio show]. All Africans don't do it. A lot of times, it's a religious belief. I can literally say a lot of guys do it without getting married. [I said what I said to have an] open discussion. It just went to a whole other level, and then it started affecting other people's lives. Honestly, I didn't mean for it to blow like it blew. But I should have known better.
We're talking about polygamy, right?
We're just talking about guys with more than one woman, in general. In actuality, I'm not speaking on behalf of all Africans, and I'm not speaking on behalf of all men. I feel like this, whenever [you bring that topic up], you open up the conversation for us to [have] that discussion, period. 'Cause that's pretty much the biggest problem [men and women] have, ain't it? I'm in a position where I was dating more than one woman, but I was honest about it. And I would tell her, 'Look, this is my situation. This is what I got at home. This is what I got on the side. And give her the respect and opportunity to be able to choose, 'Okay, this is the package that comes with him if I decide to deal with him.' Now, she can choose to do it or say, 'You know what, I'm glad he gave me the decision, I think I'll do without.'
How many women do you have?
That's too personal. I don't want to take it to a point where it's too far out there so if I was to go and constantly promote that, what does that do? If I was to go and promote this on every radio station, then it's gonna look like I'm out there promoting polygamy, when that's not the case. I'm just being real. I'm being honest as possible. I've always been that kind of person. But when I get to a point where I feel like it's destroying other people's lives, then it's a responsibility I got to contain. I have other friends that do believe in that, and it's affecting their families now. I don't want it to be, like, where Africans are even looking at me in a different way. 'Cause if I'm speaking on behalf of them, and I'm misrepresenting them, and they're my biggest supporters, the last thing I want to do is lose the respect of Africans. So I must apologize for speaking on behalf of certain situations where it might have come out wrong. But you know that's a part of the media. It happens. At the end of the day, I would like to clear up a situation. I should have never brought that out in the public, because it ended up being a big big issue.
So why did you bring it up?
It felt good at the moment. It was like, you know, I was gonna give them something to talk about. It opened up the discussion. It opened up a door that normally wouldn't have been open for people just to communicate. So that was the main purpose.
Everybody is doing it. You know how many dudes got mad women? Honestly, as men sometimes, we can be selfish.
So now, what if a woman said something like that, if that was her position?
You can't control that. Who are you to say that 'I can do it, but you can't.'
What if she's doing a different guy every night of the week, and you're Thursdays?
I don't judge her based on that. It's her life. But if I'm involved, I'm gon' take all week. I'm gonna represent. I'm gonna do what I do.
Are you married?
I'm not about to get into my personal life. I made that mistake once. You gotta do your research. When I go to accept that Grammy, I'll have my family, my real family, with me. It may be what I said, it may not be. But the reality show is comin' soon so lookout for it!
Do you want to give a special shout out to your boo, or one of your boos?
(Laughs). I would never put nobody in the line of fire.
Do you have your eyes any females out there? Maybe celebrities in the game?
Well, my eyes are always out. You're gonna get me in trouble.
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Posted on March 12, 2007 4:35 PMNot all muslims are polygamists. Akon watch your mouth are people are listening..
Posted on March 12, 2007 4:30 PMListen i know akon has fucked up i know he has done wrong n maybe he didnt relize that he was speaking for all of Africa see this is what you guys do once you have a fixed eye on a brother or anyone in the world automatically he is this and that meanwhile we all make mistakes if you never made a mistake let me make you a saint because even the pope has made mistake we are human we are african we are are american and we bleed through similar vains if you guys want to hate him fine but he is not the person that everybody bashes on what about brittany or the person who shot tupac...? you guys are soo focused on everybody else focus on yourselfs.... if hes happy and thats what he was raised is he going to change because he came to a difernt country personally i think thats a appaling to womanize in any part but see thats how i was raised and if everybody was womanizing that doesnt mean im going to change my ways thus akon is going to do what he is raised to go cook a hot dog stop worrying about everybody else whatever happen to privacy or loving a person no matter what yet your christians ? God doesnt want us to dislike nor hate he wants us to forgive
Posted on February 25, 2007 1:57 PMi'm in love with a man from Liberia and we're playing on getting married and he told me that poly was praticed over there but they past a law to stop it and it never happened in the culture and yes he is a muslim but he doesn't practiced those ways
but to be honest i had much respect for akon but when i heard this i couldn't believe it. but another thing is this no one has the right to judge any one yeah do i think its wrong i do, but its not my place to judge him cause one day we all will judged on everything we did whether it was the sunlight or in the dark.. in my opionion i think its wrong and it was meant to be one man and one woman but hey if the women like thats their business but i know im not sharing my dick with no one fuck that
Posted on February 8, 2007 9:34 PMi love your music n i like u to send me one of your music till me the time
Posted on February 3, 2007 4:01 PMakon is the man!!!!!!!....its better for him to be f^&#in around with skanks then to marry 3 women respectfully and take care of them??????? sorry ladies but its in a man to stray and he's "straying" by loving them, living with them and taking care of the life that comes out of their vaginas. america is very hypocritical when it comes to adultery, marriage, polygamy etc......cause monygamy is one of the most preached things in america......and one of the least practised.
Posted on January 27, 2007 4:52 PMFuck yall people from Congo, Ghana yall know Senegal is holdind it down stop hating yes he made a mistake all Africans do not believe in it because all Africans arent muslims but all muslims believe in it some people choose not to practice it its not obligatory im an American muslim who was raised in African but ima tell yall some that most of yall dont know Africans are hypocrites they never wanna see somebody making it to the top ya dig. N for the bumb who said white people look at us n laugh they laugh cuz as black people we forgot where the fuck we came from cuz some Africans tryna fit in the American lifestyles so bad they kiss da red neck ass ya dig get yall facts rite shout out to anybody holding it down for Akon
Posted on January 15, 2007 4:49 PMFirst of let me tell you this im a muslim myself from West Africa, let me start with this Africans on here tryna fit in the American lifestyles you mufuckas know damn well that most Africans believe in Polygamy yall mufuckas need to remember where da fuck yall came from shit i was born here but shit i'd rather be African than being American at least i know where the fuck i came from you dig, and a message for the bumb who said Akon was born in the US na da fuck he wasnt, he came to the US when he was 8. Get it rite n stop hating Africans support dis brother who made it to the top thats why Africa will nver be like the rest of the world because of hatred n greed.. N for yall dumb asses from Congo,Kenya or Nigeria other than the west side yall know west Africa is holding it down thats why yall never liked us..
Posted on January 15, 2007 4:40 PMhe's a great guy and i love him for not 4getting his roots.keep doin what u doin man if it works 4 u.
Posted on January 8, 2007 6:38 PMI love Akon so much. He has right to do whatever he wants to do.He is honest. He marry by law, and doesn't cheat behind or flirt. I support AKon and All Muslim Ummah
Posted on January 5, 2007 5:36 PMi am an african , born and bred and still living in africa. Our forethers practiced polygamy , thats a fact but many africans now hate it coz the women and children suffer while the men fulfil their selfish ego desires. God never designed polygamy, it was people. He created Adam and Eve and he said the man shall leave his parents ,cling to his wife and the two shall be one flesh. Now can somebody tel me how a man can be one flesh twined with 3 wives.
Posted on January 5, 2007 9:44 AMNaturally one can never love all the women the same , and naturally the women will be jealous. its in our software, God made it that way. He gave Adam enough love For Eve alone.
Greetings & Happy New Year to all!
Posted on January 2, 2007 12:40 PMListen Akon is a human being whose opinions are now public. He is a mature ass man who opened a convo that is worth paying a closer look into.
He has made the mistake to make general comments, granted. I hope he realizes that, however it would be ludacris to think that our public figures do not make mistakes. At least this is not a fatale mistake as the ones that i will refrain from spitting our here that more prominent figures are making and affecting thousands if not millions of lives.
I am Senegalese man and expressing my own views, just like Akon was on the show.
Now we all need to grow up and be able to argue our points without insulting our respective levels of intelligence. Akon is A succesful Senegal artist born and raised in Senegal who came to the US in his early teen years. Please do not divulge lies about the man. If you have facts that u can back up; bring them up. Until then Shut the Hell up, I say that respectfully, :)!
I and many people around the world celebrate his success, appreciate his lyrics, and grove to his beats.
Now let's be real, how many people do you know that are faithful to one women and then how many women do u know that is faithful to one man. Not saying they do not exist, but that they exist in both gender but be truthful with your answer.
I have many friends of all nationalities, I have been in france,Italy, lived here for 14 years, all the men I have met in a certain moment or another would fuck around. Many men although not married to many women live a polygamous lifestyle.
Like some said, many Africans are monogamous, my father is one of them. My parents after 30 years of marriage are still together. But I could not guarantee that my parents have been faithful throughout, who can but themselves.
Since a young age, although I had a monogamous state of mind as far as marriage, I had a polygamous lifestyle. And for the sake of space of time I will stop to this point. MOST MAN MAY HAVE A MONOGAMOUS STATE OF MIND BUT HAVE A POLYGAMOUS LIFESTYLE OR TRAINING.
Okay I don't have a problem with africans. or muslims, but I would really like, for those who are agruing in favour of polyamy (at least the men). Tell me, would you care if your wife was then having more than one guy? Because if you can't handle her doing that then it's probably not a good idea to agrue what you couldn't accept.
Posted on December 20, 2006 8:35 AMWow, some of you folks are really ignorant.
Alexandra:
How come every African I have ever met always claims to be from a "prominent" family, if Africa is so "prominent", why is it in the sorry shape that its in today??
Alexandra must not go to school and know that there are over 50 different countries in Africa. You should be ashamed to make such an ignorant comment. And the reason why you meet a lot of Africans from prominent families in Africa is usually because they are the only ones who can afford to come to the US. Unless they are apart of special programs, it is very hard to come to the US.
And for the idiot who said most Senegalese are illiterate and didn't even spell the word right...I have nothing to say to you because you are clearly a fool...and that is coming from an educated Jamaican woman.
And by the way, I know plenty of wonderful Muslims and if you people aren't willing to read and educate yourselves enough to know what is going on in the rest of the world...shame on you. Read from non US source of what is going on in IRaq and why or what is goign on in Israel and why? I do not believe in polygamy because I was raised in a monogamous society, but if it works for you, so be it. I know that many men take advantage of the situation, but not all of them. Some actually do it to help out women. I know many educated women who are in polygamous relationships. It was their choice. They can handle it. We must try not to criticize things which we do not understand. Educate yourselves my brothers and sisters.
Posted on December 17, 2006 1:42 PMYa'll need to stop HATIN' and leave Akon alone. I am an AMERICAN muslim woman who see NOTHING wrong with Polgamy when the husband is fulfilling all his duties to all of his wives. I must admit when I converted to Islam, polygamy was something I had to get used to, but it's part of my religion. Can some females out here today say it is worse than your dude messing around on you behind you back and bringing you home stuff you don't know about like AIDS, which is highest right now among us African American Women. I am not in a polygamous relationship now, if my husband were to bring it up(which I doubt) I would rather know he is with a clean, healthy, safe woman, than some dirty shank he picked up off the corner. Besides the Qur'an has strict guideline that a man must follow to have more than one wife, and clearly states if you can not deal justly with 3 or more than ONLY ONE. If Akon has 3 wives I bet you all of them are happy, and hopefully he is faithful only to them, but now that he has started to blow up, I wonder if he will step out on them, and he he does, it's not those women I would worry about, I would worry about him!
Posted on December 16, 2006 8:57 PMAs a Ghana-American muslim, I say go ahead, theres nothing wrong with polygamy, it helps safe gurad against other things that arent lawful by are Holy Qur'an. So Akon hold it down for Mama Africa and the whole Muslim Ummah!!
Posted on December 6, 2006 1:44 PMim so in love with akon its unbelievable!!! i am shocked at the story though. i guess everybody should just respect his way of living!!!!!!
Posted on December 6, 2006 12:40 PMwhatever does it for him..................i guess
being a west african, i am personally offended that Akon would imply that all African women allow themselves to be degraded by living in polygamous households. i have never in my life known a polygamist and i grew up completely surrounded by africans.... Akon is digusting and should refrain from generalizing about an entire continent. what an idiot!!
Posted on November 26, 2006 5:02 PMMore props to Akon. I am an African Female from Liberia and believe that if Akon can afford to have more than 1 wife it's really nobody business but his and his family. And for those Africans that comment about him saying that Polygamy is more of a Muslim thing than African needs to take African History 101.Even before white man came and spread Christianity, before Arab man spread Islam in Africa; many of our people practiced polygamy.
Posted on November 26, 2006 2:20 PMhe didnt say all africans
Posted on November 24, 2006 5:49 PMi know people who have been involved in polygamy i dont agree with it but hey fuck it man
he is just speaking on what he has lived
in america you have racist people and a negativel;ifestyle so what the hell r u talking bout
the most hypocritical shyt i have lived thru
I love Akon for being real and for keeping it real. He is just being honest, He is african and proud. Not because he is living and making money in the USA that he is going to change or abandon his culture. He beleives in poligamy and he gonna practice, if he can't practice in the usa, he still gonna go to africa every summer and practice it. He is from Senegal like i am and we do practice poligamy over there. Nobody is forced to do it, if people choose to be have more than one wife, that is their own choice and the religion we practice and beleive in back it up too. People choose to be gay, people choose not to get married the same way people choose to marry more than one wife. The main thing about it is honesty, before u get married u ask first the woman if she all right with it, if she is not so u are not gonna do it . I love this brother for keepin it real and show u the real african culture y'a ll never had a chance to know and see. Y'all haven't seen nothing yet and he don't give a damn about what y'all thinking. keep it gully Bro senegal is backing u up 100 per cent. Akon never lies about anything at all. He told u from day one that the only reason he was born in America was for him to become citizen and not be confronted with some immigration issues. He is african and Senegalese to the core and he ain't gonna give up his culture, y'all better accep him or leave him alone....he made it and y'all can't stop him no more.. keep it up Brohe doesn't mean thaT all african practice or beleive in it but where he is from they sure practice it and nobody is force to do it , whover can afford it and agree with it can only do it... An one more thing AIDS and HIV rate is very low in Senegal for people who don't know..thanks to the religion practices that does not allow sexual promiscuity and debauchery we usually see on tv . Djadieuf Waay Akon !
Posted on November 11, 2006 5:13 PMQuit hatin on this cat. He believes what he wants to believe, most you you that post on here are all bullshit. I have looked into polygamy in Africa and it is not uncommon at all. It happens in many African countires, so maybe from his area polygamy is popular. Who gives a shit what you believe in, you're not Akon. Just because you belive in polygamy doesnt make you a dog either. Ya'll are just hatin, quit the drama. 1
Posted on October 25, 2006 12:31 PMI'm Nigerian...froma monogamous family...know people from polygamous families...and all of us are FINE.
and JEEZ DANG! he said...and i rephrase: "ALL AFRICANS BELEIVE IN IT, YET ALL DO NOT PRACTISE IT"
u see how yall took wat u wanted 2 hear and just RAN WITH IT
granted, he made a iggy comment AFTER that...but dat was just jokes. dey LAFFED about it.
get over it. dude has 4 wives...is he taking care of all of them? did they agree to marry him knowing he has other wives? Aaight then! its way better than having a buncha baby mothers on the outside and lying to his wives. unlike many of us, he is keeping an HONEST relatnship. and if he wasnt honest b4, he sho' is now cuz they'd all know bout it.
Posted on October 13, 2006 2:45 PMThis whole thing is just typical black ghetto trash. White people sit around and laugh at us for stuff like this. Do not talk about the Bible to me and about how GOD says "ITS COOL." LOL. Come on now. The bible was written by a man so of course its gonna be COOL. My grandfather was somewhat like a polygamist and thats why the nigga has over 26 children and they all hate his ass. None of them talk to eachother, and they could give a damn. In that case, a woman should be able to have at least 7-10 husbands since their is more women then there are men. AND DO NOT COME AT ME WITH THAT AMERICAN BLACKS DONT UNDERSTAND POLYGAMIST ASS WAYS AND HOW WE NEED TO PRACTICE IT. YALL SOLD US TO AMERICA FOR TOBACCO AND SUGAR CANE. This is a mans world so of course your with it. THAT JUST SHOWS THAT YOUR MOTHER N FATHERS DID NOT DO THEIR JOB. GET YOUR 4 WIVES IN HELL. i just hope yall do not have daughters. I would never raise my son with that ignorance. And you talk about thats what the muslims and islams practice, but they are the same people that are blowing eachother up, kidnapping and beheading people, and they beat their women in groups if they are seen in public without a man walking in front of them. I do not know why we put up with this crap when there are more of us instead of males. this is why i do not respect men at all.
Posted on October 12, 2006 8:13 PMMistakes are common in this world going in the wrong direction! My dad has been polygamist, and i myself don't believe in da sh*t i would rather have a mistress than having two wives! Anyhow Akon shouldnt be sayin' "All",and that aint somethin' folk should make big deal out of it! Please lord have mercy
Posted on October 12, 2006 1:37 AMMy husband is from sengal, and he nor his father or other parts of his family there believe in Pologamy. It's wrong to generalized, Please say what you do, not what you think everyone else does.
Posted on October 11, 2006 4:07 PMI think Akon made a speech mistake which is common..
Posted on October 11, 2006 9:59 AMGuys, even presidents, legislators make speech mistakes..I would expect him to rectify and apologize for saying "All" africans...I don't share all his views but I would not take them
to drama level.
However, I would appreciate Akon to be more genuine and talk about himself as a simple dude, with lots of culture..I'm sure he can bring a lot to the game if he's inspired by the rich senegal cultures/influences. But do it the right way...I'd like him to say, "I'm polygamist,coz I choose to be..and many african people are comfortable with that..Does not means all are. "
Anyway you should ask for his head for making that mistake. Peace
AKON, next time speak to your lived experience as a Muslim Sengalese man. Please don't attempt to speak for all of The Continent because you proved in your interview with Angie Martinez that you can't. With your celebrity platform, I thought you learned the danger of making blanket statements.
Except for those who follow Islam dogmatically, perhaps Akon, you belong to the leagues of African men that revert to the "pologamy is my culture excuse" to justify their infidelity.
The statements you made in this interview, gives us insight to why the rates of AIDS/HIV are so high in Senegal, and in other African countries.
Your lyrics and music make you sound less ignorant...stick to that!
Signed,
Posted on October 9, 2006 12:05 PMA dissapointed female rethinking her status as a Akon fan...MJ
First of all, people need to stop hating on Akon... His album that is going to be coming out on the 21st is going to be tight as hell!!!!!! The only thing he said wrong was "All". A better statement would have been that SOME africans belive in polygamy... Trust me, there is not one african country were polygamy is not practiced...Times may be changing but, that does not mean that it is not practiced...
Posted on October 8, 2006 12:12 PMSome of you are so stupid!!!!!! What if Akon would have Just said "I'm a pimp or playa".... nobody would have said sh*t. (Right) We live in a country where we love the pimps, the playaz aka the dead beat dads. Most of you all have dead beat dads. Most of you need a DNA test to find out who your baby father is. Some of yall Sleep with one partner and then a next, you call it an OPEN RELATIONSHIP. How many women you know that share a baby daddy? Oh thats right they cant find him!!!!! He is ducking his responsibilities. And who are these women who open their legs to every Tom, Dick and Harry. Do you have a friend like that? Is she a polygamist? or What about the Girlfriend you know thats sleeping with the married man. Is she a polygamist? and the dead beat dad with 4 baby mama's. Is he a Polygamist? What about the daters, you know the people who date multiple people at the same time (forever). Is that polygamy? Oh yea You know who we really love Hugh Hefner ( The Playboy Guy) how many bunnies do he have? But thats not polygamy is you just Fu*k em and dont marry them, RIGHT.
By the way isn't there a ratio of women to men 5 to 1 some say 7-1 im not really sure what it is, But i Know every woman is waiting for her night is shining armor. Add up all the dead beat, Gay men, men in Prison, and the niccas thats not ballers some of yall women will be waiting for a long time. So long you might get into a polygamist relationship with a pimp, a playa, or a married man. Some of us are lucky to find that one special person, out of all the illresponseable and unmoral people out their ( Male and Female) but those who dont will alway playa hate on our relationships. Go and pick up that Konvicted 11-21-06 stop playing games, Akon I Got ya back!!! sometime you cant keep it to real with some folks They like the lies better, cause they are living a lie. What up BU--- O----- MO
Posted on October 7, 2006 2:15 PMAnother sad revelation of a black man who has fought all odds, become somewhat succesful...only to be reconditioned by success!
Posted on October 7, 2006 2:11 PMpolygamy was apart of OUR culture...alot of yall african americans dont want to relate to your african heritage.....its not about just having sex with alot of women....there is a science to having more than one woman that alot of yall will not OVERstand.....most of the men in the bible had more than one mate.....and GOD was cool with it....you all need to drop the westernized way of thinking
Posted on October 7, 2006 1:48 PMI think that Akon is an asshole. All those women living with him are assholes too who probably suffer from low self-esteem. Gold diggers who would not take a second look at his fugly ass if he was broke. Fame sure does make some people stupid!
Posted on October 7, 2006 10:21 AMUmmmm Akon need 2 knock it off!!!! I wish he would come home one day and say some mess like that to me.... I'd whoop him...... AKON? U SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOUR-SELF!!!!!
Posted on October 6, 2006 11:02 PMI will be brief.Only a fool prescribes to the patriachal notion that polygamy works best for the woman and man intwine. Its a monkery of female independance to share a spouse with others, not to mention a decry shameful appeal to the phallus-controlled society that such a matrimony works. Mrs.Cherry, you are a fool.Plain and simple.
Posted on October 6, 2006 2:58 AMI will love my fiancee for her independance, her candor, intellect and beauty.I do not need to add other women into our relationship to justify herself or my ego. Polygamy is a damn cock and please game.I said it.
Poly still goes on in africa. my grandfather had more than 3 wives, but this is my thing, if the females involved are ok with it, then let it be. Me personally, I wouldn't dare allow my hubby to do me like that. fukk I look like??!
Posted on October 6, 2006 12:17 AMI heard the interview with Akon on hot 97 with Angie Martinez and he DID NOT SAY all africans practice poligamy. He said he was a muslim and in Islam you are allowed up to 4 wives. He never made a general statement about all africans. I don't agree or disagree I'm just stating what I heard during the interview.
Posted on October 5, 2006 4:58 AMShame on you Akon. I am African, and for those who don't know Africa, what he said didn't represent all Africa, if it does it will represent only Muslim Africans( at this century it is illigal though, for this reason i don't think it exists). anyway, We Christians do not practice that.
Posted on October 4, 2006 9:05 PMI will not allow this wise brother known as AKON who has enough $$ to support his separate households. There are households around the country being run by single woman and no man for the children to identify with as a father. The haters were quick to demonize this brother for expanding his intelligence on multiple types of relationships. AKON I respect your ability to be to true to yourself despite the consequences when you are standing for truth and social justice. Polygamy is a state issue and I believe that a religious freedom is a federal issue.
There are many who would ask, I imagine why a woman would choose polygamy? It might be a good deal for a man, many might suppose, but why would a woman choose to share her husband with another woman or women and choose to be a polygamous wife? Why settle for the imagined subjugation, exploitation and degradation?
There are many myths and untruths about the polygamous lifestyle, and there are many different forms and practical applications of the theory. There is no "Rule Book for Polygamous Marriage" that lays down the structure and form of the practice. One guide we have is the Bible, the Holy Word of God, which should guide and enlighten Christian's as they strive to be obedient to God's will for their lives.
It is, historically, a form of marriage which has been practiced all over the world, and which is much more prevalent than monogamy. It is also a form of marriage which has taken on a particularly bad connotation in Western European culture, especially in the United States. What is it about this lifestyle that raises such emotion and criticism? At a time when homosexual marriage is becoming more and more accepted, what is the problem with polygamy?
One of the problems is the untruths and misconceptions that form our popular cultural idea of what polygamy is. Women achieve more freedom and expanded horizons than in monogamy. Why? There are two or more to share the housework, the cooking, the childcare, freeing each one to have more time to herself to pursue independent goals and objectives. Women are as free as they choose to speak their minds. If women are kept silent, that is the problem of the individuals involved, women as well as men, not the form of marriage. Exploitation and subjugation may occur in some situations, but that also occurs in monogamous marriages. The form of marriage is not the problem - the individuals involved in the marriage and their attitudes are the problem. A polygamous marriage based on Biblical truths and precepts, as all marriages should be, should meet the same standards as any monogamous marriage. Husbands should love their wives, and wives should be obedient & submissive to their husbands, based on Biblical principles.
To those who would argue that polygamy makes women dependent, I would say from experience that just the opposite is true. A woman married to a man with other wives is forced to have a very strong sense of who she is, what she's doing, and why she is doing it, and must maintain her own sense of identity. Her identity cannot be wrapped up in her husband's identity, the way many women in monogamous marriages become, simply because her husband isn't always there. And for an independent woman, that's one of the advantages. There is free time and energy to spend as one chooses. There is a built-in set of companions and friends for fellowship, for sharing work as well as play, and for help and caring. God brings people together in a family for reasons that are beneficial to each person-and so out of every relationship in the family we can learn and grow.
Polygamy is not for everyone. As long as every individual gets the time, energy, caring and compassion he or she requires, what is the problem with a man having more than one wife? As our society has encouraged women to make independent choices, and individuals to fulfill their own unique potential, if a woman chooses polygamy, does anyone have the right to tell her she cannot make that choice? Abuse and exploitation should not be tolerated, as they should not be tolerated anywhere in our society. Polygamy is not abuse. It is a lifestyle ordained by God for some people.
Examine the Bible. There is nowhere that polygamy is preached against. It was not only common in the Old Testament; it was a common practice in Jewish culture at the time of Christ. Monogamy was only brought to the Jewish world by Roman civilization (which was widely known as being morally corrupt with slavery, endless war, barbaric entertainment, & sexual orgies), which. Yet if such a common practice was wrong, why did Christ not preach against it, as He did against all the other wrongs of His day? Polygamy is not for everyone. But for some it is God's calling and God's special blessing. It must be based on Gods core principles and lived in obedience to God's will, as any monogamous marriage must be. It certainly has its problems and pitfalls, as does any marriage particularly when it is not a lifestyle that we are trained in this culture to live. It is a lifestyle that provides much love, fellowship, support and growth in one's walk with the Lord. To those whom God has called, it is a special treasure.
Benefits For Women
Automatic childcare in a sexist society gives women more effective choice to have a career without devaluing the role of homemaker.
Being able to marry men who are already married means that women can marry men who have already proved themselves, therefore minimizing their risk.
Being able to marry the men who attract most women means they don't have to settle just for what's left after other women have the best pickings.
Having the possibility that a husband can remarry without divorce extends practical security to a woman. She needn't worry about losing her husband and income as she loses her looks, because if her husband is attracted by a younger woman, he doesn't even have to think about leaving his wife.
Polygamy removes the pressure on a husband to commit adultery, and removes damaging deceit from a marriage.
Polygamy provides a method where a woman can have a female friend for life as well as a husband.
Polygamy therefore provides more people and a better chance of meeting diverse needs.
Polygamy provides a potential for at least three adult incomes, reducing state dependence and the fear of unemployment.
Controls Placed On Men
If a man wants to have another sexual partner in a polygamous system then he has to meet his responsibilities - pay for any children produced from all his relationships without priority being given to those from a 'legal' relationship.
Polygamy removes or reduces the seduction of innocent young women - If a man promises to marry her, he cannot use his existing marriage as an excuse for not fulfilling a promise.
Polygamy reduces the number of women who are available. Currently, with more women than men, this 'cheapens' women. With less women available their 'value' goes up. In other words, polygamy makes men have to try harder and do better with women if they are to win them in competition with other men.
Posted on October 4, 2006 3:17 PMHE IS FROMA PROMINENT FAMILY ? WHAT THIS MEANS IN AFRICA? . NOTHING .THE PROEMINENTS THERE ARE OFTEN CORRUPTS .PROEMINENT FAMILY OF MISICIANS???? MAY BE A GRIOT I'M SURE AKA IS NOT AN EDUCATED PERSON
Posted on October 4, 2006 1:54 PMWHO IS THIS AKON ? A RAPPER? RAP IS DOWN .AND THIS AKON IS SILLY TALKING ABOUT POLIGAMY.ANYWAY MOST OF SENEGALESE ARE ILLETRATED .IS POSSIBLE HE IS SON OF A GRIOT.TRADITIONAL MUSICIANS FROMSENEGAL .ITHINK THIS AKON HAVE A LOW LEVEL OF EDUCATION
Posted on October 4, 2006 1:50 PMSoemone should check Akons actual Birth records, I heard from a GREAT SOURCE .. he is actually born an American...What he does in the dark will come to the lite and he will lose alot of repect when the truth is revealed. If paparazi decides to dig deeper into to his history.. I feel very sorry for lost soul! I really do! he is lieng about alot of things..he is setting himself up for this one I'm not going to get too much into details b/c he's creatign this for himself he needs to stop NOW while he's ahead and jsut tell the truth. He needs to play it off and say he was joking or someting b/c he's hurting alot of people in his family and in Africa who deal with him, love him and has backed up his lies about even being BORN in africa long enough.... As for this being his religion.. Yeah Aight.. This is his Alibi.. His real wife should divorce his ass and let him have the fake wives he's talking about that dont exist.. he's got groupies~ hoez~ that he spend his money on and for pussy and thats the end to that and is seeking jsutification to keep tehy asses around.. Lets see who claims to be married to his ass once he's broke and Back in Jail!
Posted on October 4, 2006 11:49 AMif that polygamy is Akons religion as someone stated, then theat nucca should have stated "IN MY MOSLEM RELIGION WE PRACTICED and STRONGLY BELIEVE IN POLYGAMY" and not to say 'ALL OF AFRICA BELIEVE AND PRACTICE POLYGAMY', we all know Muslims practiced that sh-t, and that comment would not have come as a surprised to anyone..but to say all Africans is just pure nonesense.
Polygamy may be a "Moslem thing, NOT AN all AFRICAN THING.WHAT A BUNCH OF BULLS-T
akon needs to take his ugly charcoal face and sit somewhere with than nonsense. wHO GAVE HIM MOUTH TO REPRESENT ALL OF AFRICA. what an arrogant a-hole.
Posted on October 4, 2006 10:50 AMWhere Akon is from (SENEGAL - which is just one country out of the 52 countries in Africa), many of them are muslim illiterates whose mentality and thinking are just as his. On top of that "majority" of the men over there oppress women over there in senegal. No matter how educated they become when they come out west,their thinking remains the same. It is so sad.
African is not one country, it is a continent with many countries with total diffirent believes and customs.
POLYGAMY IS NOT PRACTICED ALL OVER AFRICA. THAT IS A COMPLETE LIE, and Akon is very stupid to make such comments about All of Africa.
Proud African
Posted on October 4, 2006 10:44 AMHow come every African I have ever met always claims to be from a "prominent" family, if Africa is so "prominent", why is it in the sorry shape that its in today??
Posted on October 4, 2006 10:20 AMhey i think Akon, should really get in touch with home, i like dude, but all africans do not believe in polygamy. i am born and bred in ghana, that s#@t is no more. used to be in the past, but so were the asians too. he needs to visit home.lol
Posted on October 4, 2006 10:19 AMIts just a matter of time before his ass ends up like Jeff Warrens whatever his name is(that white man that had a cult in Utah and practiced polygamy). He'll be in prison along with the rest of the perverts. Them women should be ashamed of degrading themselves, its bad enough we get disrespected in the industry. Sometimes I dont blame men for doing what they do. THIS IS SOME SAD SHIT.
Posted on October 3, 2006 7:51 PMAs a person of West African descent, i'm hurt and appalled by Akon's assertions and generalization. To say that ALL African men believe in polygamy is not only fallacious but also very dangerous... I'm from Ghana born and raised I have lived or visited 3 to 4 West African countries I know of only two men (and i'm only talking about my father's generation which should be the same as Akon's father) who have 2 wives and not more and they don't even live in the same house with each other AND those men ARE muslim and according to their laws they are allowed up to 4... So you can imagine how "acceptable" polygamy is among my father's peers let's not even begin to talk about my peers (I fall in the 28-35 range) my friends happily have their plates full with ONE single woman... I'm ashamed of AKON today. never saw this coming...
Posted on October 3, 2006 7:20 PMI don't think he's wrong. That is his religion, he's not even from America, you can't knock him for his religion.
Posted on October 3, 2006 6:44 PMOk, this is true and he has multiple wives, could someone tell this brother that polygamy is illegal in this country and the he's only incriminating himself (as well as makeing himeself look like a jerk)??? When will these brothers learn?
Posted on October 3, 2006 1:45 PMNo offence but this is Bullshit. Akon Has a bunch of bitches that he is fucking and had 1 wife that he is leaglly married to that does NOT apove of the Bullshit of multiple wives.. Akon should be ashame of himself disgracing his family and lying about his dad having four wives. he may have had 4 marriages but they were NOT all in one house together.. This is not no fucking flavor of love story! His mother left his Father b/c she was not Beat to let his father marry a bunch of different woman & she IS AFRICAN BORN & RAISED.. he was loooking for a reason to be a whore and be right . He is making his real wife look dumb as hell and he himself looks like a complete asshole when people find out the truth. His wife be Beefing with them other bitches he mess with.. its never a happy go lucky conversation... his name speaks for itself..a kon... he is a con artist.. he should be a shamed of himself!
Posted on October 3, 2006 12:58 PMIf that's what you wanna do then more power to you. It's not like you will be the first to do and you damn sure won't be the last. So what's the problem???
Posted on October 3, 2006 10:25 AMWhat a wimp. Akon just wants an excuse to be a dog. Akon if you are African go back to the jungle stop twisting African traditions to suit your needs. Thats absolute bu llshit.
Posted on October 3, 2006 9:25 AMBrother Akon, I am from Senegal, born and raised in a Muslim family. I always have bragged about you being from Senegal however after hearing such an ignorant comment, I will refrain from relating those sentiments again. You were wrong for categorizing "ALL" Africans as polygamist. I am married to a girl from Georgia and I would not share my love with any other woman. If I felt that way, then I would leave but not add another wife. Speak for yourself!
PEACE.....
Posted on October 2, 2006 7:29 PMAkon, I have to disagree with you on that , all africans do not beleive in polygamy. So when you make a comment do not catagorize" all africans" because you bring negativity to the african race you are representing senegal not all of Africa.
Posted on October 2, 2006 3:47 PMAll Africans do not practice polygamy Akon, stop lying. Christians in Africa do not practice that, muslims practice it. Where I'm from, some muslim women that are becoming educated do not even play that. The civilized ones usually do not practice it, so I won't even say all muslims practice polygamy.
Posted on October 2, 2006 12:48 PMAs a muslim woman, I know of households where this lifestyle works well even here in the USA. It all depends on the parties involved. Just keep doing it right, Akon. Salam.
Posted on October 2, 2006 12:24 PMI know plenty of Africans and I've been around Africans all my life and none of them believe in marry plenty of women. (My sister is married to a man from Congo)
Just like in many middleeastern countries, you'll find this type of lifestyle, but most Africans regardless country don't believe in polygamy. Akon needs to stop talking trash, when he say silly things like "ALL africans belive in polygamy".
Posted on October 2, 2006 12:19 PMHmm... I should slap myself for judging a book by its cover. I would've never thought that Akon was like that. I don't like his cocky attitude either.
Posted on October 2, 2006 7:54 AMits laker brother Akon keep it African my man They will respet you for that
Posted on October 2, 2006 2:45 AMThats what am talking bout Kon, Keep it African brother, just keep it safe dude.
Posted on September 29, 2006 11:12 AMi think that he should have his own show on HBO. like Big Love with black people.
Posted on September 28, 2006 7:36 PM